The article The Benefits of Trusted BFFs was published recently.
How Finding a Great Support Group Can Impact Your Personal and Professional Lives
Much has been written in the media in the last decade about women and their BFF’s (Best Friends Forever).
While I believe that is a solid concept, I have something I think is even better! How about having five BFF’s, all at the same time, and truly “forever” – i.e. for a lifetime? I have some, and these are known as my “Ya-Ya’s” – the name comes from the famous book by Rebecca Wells, later made into a movie with Sandra Bullock.
For over fifty years – truly the better part of a lifetime — all six of us in my own Ya-Ya group have been the deepest and most trusted friends. How did this come about, and what are the huge emotional and psychological advantages of having such a great support group? And perhaps even more intriguingly, how can these benefits impact your professional life? I’ll try to explain.
Short-Term Help Yields a Permanent Prize of Friendship
I started my first business, named Atlanta Models & Talent, in my mid-20’s. As I began adding clients to my roster of talent, I searched for existing actors and personalities already in radio, television or on stage. In the early days, when I needed talent for a commercial or photography session, there would be an audition – sometimes a “cattle call,” meaning producers requested a LOT of talent before selecting a few. It was during those times that my soon-to-be-BFF’s and I first got to know one another.
As president of the agency, it was my responsibility to help the talent become more professional in the visual and vocal presentations they would do in front of directors and producers. For those who needed and requested more help, such as a portfolio, I started a side business to help with this aspect. Once I got started, there were so many professional women offering to help me with all of the various elements (print and video presentations, etc.). Once we started working together, what I noticed was the following: we all seemed to want to help one another, rather than to “win” at all costs. There were no “Queen Bees.” We did not know the meaning of the word “jealous.” We looked for solutions, not who to blame.
Beverly Kievman Copen writes for sharpheels.com a website catering to fashion, news, and lifestyle website for professional women.